Flurry of posts! I was speaking about this with colleagues a few days ago. Miss Comeback had a date with a guy a week or so ago and that dreaded moment of the bill arriving for their dinner came. As unfeminist as it is, I expect the man to pay on the first date, especially if he was the one to instigate the date in the first place. Having said that, if it’s kind of obvious during dinner that there’s no spark, then I don’t mind going dutch. There’s no logical equation for this, it’s just one of those things you can sense. After all, a date is, in effect, an investment. Of course, I don’t wait expectantly. I make a move for my purse, even go so far as to take my card out but if he was brought up right, he’ll say he’ll take care of it. In Miss Comeback’s case, this didn’t happen. So they went dutch.
Now this isn’t all bad. What’s bad is that when they moved onto a bar, he ordered his drink and then went to the toilet. Leaving her to pay. Talk about rude. And instant striking off the potential second date list. It’s plain cheeky. Whilst I’m all for paying an equal share, I wouldn’t take kindly to being forced to pay while he’s made himself scarce. Guys, if you’re on a date and out to impress, do NOT do this. And do not ‘forget’ your wallet either. I’m sure most women wouldn’t mind you being late because you had to go back home to get it. All it does is make you look like a cheapskate. And that’s not going to do you any favours.